Final Words


It is extremely important that you realize that things do not just  happen to your advantage by themselves; most of the time, you must make them happen.  Play the game of life with the attitude of playing to win and not with the attitude of playing not to lose.  The following table summarizes the differences between these two attitudes and the results of having such attitudes:

Playing Not to lose Playing to Win
Value Survival Progress
Main goal Security Prosperity
Behavior Model Avoid being wrong, being
rejected, and failing 		Reaching your ultimate capacity, the best you can do
Reactions
  1. Self-protection and self-promotion
  2. Staying inside your comfort zone
  3. Irrational thinking
  4. A closed mind
  5. Blame others
  1. Base truth on objective reality 
  2. Make decisions rationally 
  3. Outside comfort zone 
  4. Can’t fail 
  5. Take accountability
Results
  • Being right
  • Being in control
  • Being accepted
  • Comfort
  • Convenience
  • Success 
  • Growth 
  • Fun 
  • Joy 
  • Understanding